There seems to be a misconception in the black community that a girl can’t mature and “Level Up.” Hit R&B singer, dancer, and model Ciara has been the subject of criticism as of late. As early 2000s rapper Slim Thug took to radio air waves dishing his opinion on how Ciara can’t truly be happy with Russell Wilson because she is accustomed to thugs, and bad boys and Russell Wilson is well…a square. Here is the video of what the rapper spit out about the talented songstress and her marriage.
But what is seeming to be so troubling is how black men can’t accept the fact that somebody accepted Ciara for the woman that she is. Along with her child. Yes! A single black man married, a single black mother and made her a wife. They also had a child of their own. What Future didn’t see in her Russell did and now they have a beautiful family together. What woman hasn’t made poor dating choices throughout her life. She went from a girl to a woman. God forbid she matures into a “grown woman” status. Hence, the title to her new hit song, “Level Up.”
Ciara seems to be a subject of criticism since the beginning of her career. She has been talked about simply due to her height, and not being born a full blown woman which was soon debunked. But what we can’t figure out is why she needs to be labeled as “damaged goods,” just because Future (Ciara’s ex and son’s father) deemed her unworthy although he has several children of his own. It seems like Future is the one who needs to think about his own future with all the kids he’s making. Besides why would Ciara need to be with Russell solely because of his cash when she is making her own just fine. It seems to us that when ever people are happy there will always be haters waiting to throw salt in the game. Russell Wilson may be what other bad boys consider ‘simp’ but only if they knew these are the men that real women truly want. Not the smooth talking, future faking, baby momma having, trail of babies everywhere with no future guys.
Ciara wanted a man with a ‘future,’ and she finally got one is what it seems like and now that she is glowing and leveling up in life everyone has something to say. Well, Cici go ahead and be happy with you and yours.
“Goodies,” and “Body Party,” pop and R&B singer Ciara has in my opinion truly upgraded. She went from Atlanta based rapper, Future, who is the father of her son to now Football star, Russell Wilson. And when I say, “upgrade” I don’t mean this in terms of looks,(Future is quite an attractive guy) I mean in terms of respect for her as we all could tell. He says cheating had nothing to do with their relationship but instead they grew a part and wanted to make “other decisions.”
Now Ciara has grown and moved on, via the song, “I Bet,” she is now abstaining from sex with new beau Russell Wilson and someone (Future) sounds pretty upset about it, stating, “He may be just saying it to say it, God didn’t tell me that. God didn’t tell me to wait.”
Okay, we get it, you guys didn’t wait. But why put her new relationship on blast? Sounds childish and immature, Sounds a little bitter, “I Bet.”
We live in a day in age where everyone wants everything right and now without having to answer to anybody. But this epidemic is showing it’s true colors through our youth. Most kids between 9 and 17 in low income areas are becoming more drawn to drugs, fighting and violence than usual. Kids smoking pot, drinking and engaging in sex is nothing new, but the ages of the ones starting are getting worse.
Most of these kids are being raised by parents who are barely 30 and they themselves are the products of bad upbringing and they have instilled these mindsets onto their children, giving most people who have their stuff together bad views on these kids.
Here’s the thing coming from an at risk youth myself, you have to find your balance or thing you’re good at that’s positive and embrace it in a big way. That can be anything from art, filmmaking, music, sports, agriculture to maybe even helping other kids like I did.
The one thing these kids need to understand is that the world isn’t against you unless you put yourself in the situation to not be helped. To the point you are so disillusioned with what you’ve learned that that is the only thing that crosses your mind, leading to a life of crime, debauchery and violence.
We have to do better in this world or our next generation will see the crumbling of society. There is hope left in this world people. We just have to be strong enough to dig deep and find it. If I can make it, anyone can.