50 Shades Of Black
Our Black Is Beautiful
Two women of color, both very talented actresses and models
ranging from light to dark and are both equally beautiful.
The “Paper Bag” Test, “skillet,” “tar-baby,” “light -bright,” what do all of these words have in common. They are all derogatory terms once used to describe women and men of color. Stripped of our afro-centric culture and forced to adapt to a European lifestyle. It gets hard to remember who you are and where you stand. The media doesn’t do the best job of portraying all the shades of black women on TV, for men YES! Let’s take, Denzel, Don Cheadle, Idris Alba, Morris Chestnut, Samuel Jackson, Omar Epps, Mekhi Phifer, Terrence Howard, Michael Ealy, Shemar Moore, Will Smith and many many more, whom I didn’t mention. These men range from dark to light and it is perfectly acceptable for them to be in the media.
Whereas, with the ladies, things are quite different, now we have plenty of talented actresses in the biz who may get passed over for roles possibly due to looks or sex appeals. When I think about the shades of black during many modern day TV sitcoms such as, ‘Martin’ Gina, (Tisha Campbell) the starring female role, Pam, (Tichina Arnold) the supporting role, who always seemed to have a ‘problem keeping a man’ Or ‘The Game,’ Melanie Barnett-Davis,(Tia Mowry-Hardict) and Janay(Gabrielle) Melanie plays Derwin’s wife while Janay is the ‘Baby-Momma’ so to speak. Is there any reason why the darker skin get secondary roles while fairer skin get starring roles….
Let’s not stop there, as pretty and talented as Kelly Rowland is she will probably not reach Beyonce’s status NOT BECAUSE of lack of talent but society has been brainwashed to believe that lighter is better. Don’t believe me, just watch as almost all professional athletes are married to high light or white women NOT ALL! I will say that! But a vast majority. Nothing wrong with being with the one you love but there are plenty single sistahs that would take care of them just the same.
When I watched an old show of, ‘Tyra’ when black women were bleaching their skin and the skin of their kids. I thought what a travesty that these women self esteem has sunk so low that they would risk damaging their own skin just to fit in with society. Granted society does make it hard to be who you are, dreads, braids, or cornrows usually aren’t the norm for Corporate America but it is who we are. I feel a bit angry that during those times of slavery we were stripped of our heritage and roots and language. I hope that we can one day look deep down inside ourselves and truly love who we are the way we are.
Men step up and be men, brothers step up and give credit where credit is due. Stop making women single mothers, remember fellas, if she not good enough to be your wife don’t make her a mother. Women, stop chasing money, status and thugs, they usually aren’t father material. Nothing wrong with the NICE brother that treats you right, treats your kid(s) like his own, he is NOT too nice maybe he loves you and God has sent him your way for a reason. Don’t block the blessing. Also, ladies, please STOP giving other sisters the ‘mean eye’ . Let’s all respect each other and leave the cattiness and petty jealousy at home. Being jealous of what another woman has stops you from achieving your own blessings because God don’t like ugly and wants you with a pure heart and soul.
We are all beautiful through God’s perfection! Be blessed, lovelies!